A NEW ERA.

•  February 04, 2013 / 35 COMMENTS

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The alarming rate at which social media is growing — and, consequently, becoming an increasingly large part of our lives — has been a topic that’s been on my mind for the past couple of years.  My perspective on it has waffled from being gung-ho/all in, to wanting to shut it off completely. Lately, more than ever, the scale has been tipping towards the latter.

*Before I go any further on this subject, I just want to say that I’m not here to get on a soapbox. Everyone has his/her own view on how they want to approach social media and blogging, and this is what I’ve decided that I need to do for myself.  

Last week, when the new video platform, Vine, exploded out of nowhere and everyone jumped on the bandwagon, it made me take a giant step backwards and look at the whole social media situation. Before I’d even heard of this new app, I had been thinking how I need to put my phone down more, not look at Instagram, Facebook, Twitter. Generally feeling like I just need to unplug and get back to basics…like reading a book, making a nice meal and enjoying it (without having to Instagram it)…blogging a quality post without worrying if it’s pin-worthy — and feeling the need to link back to it via every.single.platform.

Seeing Vine catch on like wildfire just made me kind of sad for my generation. We are so absorbed into this digital world – myself included. I stopped to think about what I used to do with my free time pre-smartphone (it’s been about 3 years…so checking my phone is routine) — and I honestly don’t even remember what life was like before I documented everything!  I am tired of feeling the pull to comment on what I’m doing, or share photos of life as it happens, or worry about getting “likes”…or even worse, feeling like I haven’t made my friends feel worthy/validated by “liking” their posts, etc.

When I first started a blog, about three years ago, all these social media outlets weren’t so deeply integral to the routine (in fact, for me, not at all). Blogs were the main platform. I’ve been thinking about how the conversation has moved off of the blogs onto Twitter, Facebook, etc. — and with it, the quality of posts. When you’re spreading yourself so thinly between all these various platforms, can you really appreciate a blog post for what it is — and moreover, what if we put all that time we’re spending tweeting and instagraming into a post?  Of course, there are still blogs out there with amazing content. But I know that for me, a dip in quality (due to social networking) has been the case. I loathe feeling like I’m sucked into this ritual: blog the post, create a bit.ly link, tweet it, upload photo from post to Facebook and link it, pin it, instagram it, and then tweet it again in the afternoon for people who may have missed it earlier. That sounds pretty nuts when you write it out like that, doesn’t it? I guess for people who have made a business out of blogging, maybe that’s what it takes to keep a following and continued growth…but this is just my personal blog and I don’t know how I got sucked into all of it. Kinda scary.

The main point of me writing all this is to say: I need to back off of the social media. I can’t (and I don’t want to) do it anymore. I really just want to write my blog — and I want to spend all that time that I’ve been tweeting and whatnot actually creating. It’s a bittersweet decision for me, because I have made so many incredible connections with people via those outlets, but I feel that our friendships can definitely be continued through emails and hopefully, an ongoing and more engaging conversation on the blog. I don’t want to discontinue any relationships I’ve made (you lovely folks know who you are!), but I want to enrich my real life by being fully present in it, and not a slave to my iPhone. So long story short, I deactivated my personal Facebook account, and have no plans to update my blog FB account. I’m not going to be tweeting (so please don’t think I’m ignoring you if you’ve mentioned me – definitely not!) or Instagraming anymore. I think IG will be the hardest to give up, because I love taking photos. Instead of using that platform, I plan to share my personal photos on here. I’ve decided to keep Pinterest, because although it can be a time suck…I truly enjoy pinning, and haven’t felt negatively affected by spending time there.

I’m really looking forward to a new era for myself, hence the design I created above. I can’t wait to simplify my life, nurture my blog, create more quality things and engage with all of you right here. Thanks so much for reading this – and I hope you understand where I’m coming from. I look forward to chatting with you around these parts! :)

35 Comments

February 04, 2013

I really appreciate this post. I don’t have a smartphone, but I still feel the pull to social media throughout the day. Good luck on this new journey!

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replied on February 4th, 2013

Thanks so much, Faith! I am looking forward to simplifying, and it’s good to know other people can relate to feeling overwhelmed by social media – glad I’m not alone! xo :)

February 04, 2013

Amen, sister! Big love to you!
xo

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replied on February 4th, 2013

Love you, Jess! Thanks so much for all your support – your friendship means the world to me, and I have thoroughly enjoyed getting to know you…and look forward to continuing that! :) xo!

February 04, 2013

Good for YOU my friend!
I wrote a similar contemplative post on the same subject today too :) I decided as a business that I want to keep doing the social media thing. But I will ONLY submit to each platform for a purpose. What do I do for business? What is for personal pleasure and enjoyment, art making and fun? For me, Vine has opened up a new area in which I have SO much fun making short videos. It means that I will be instagramming less. And I feel the weight of the “need” to post photos of everything I’m doing all the time immediately disappearing. Instagram felt like peer pressure. But Vine to me feels like I am just doing exactly what i want, coming up with fun projects to turn into videos whenever I want to.
Last year, I was ready to throw in the towel with all of my social media crap. But I do need to keep some things for business’ sake since my business is built on social media. I will just tone back on somethings that I don’t care that much for, and simply enjoy what I do enjoy.
Good for you for doing exactly what YOU want to do :)
xo Moorea

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replied on February 4th, 2013

Thanks so much for taking the time to comment on this post, Moorea! Funny that we both had written about social media today — but then again, you and I have a lot in common! ;) I think it’s important, as you mentioned in your wonderful post, to step back and think about why we are posting what we do – and maybe more importantly, why we feel so obligated to do it. For a business owner, I can completely see how social networking fits into growing and prospering. Since I’m not trying to pursue becoming a full-time freelance designer right now, there isn’t really a point in me keeping all those platforms up and running. I haven’t really checked out Vine, but I knew I couldn’t take on another social outlet which I would inevitably spend too much time on — especially when I was already feeling the need to cut back. It does sound like it would be fun (and I am all about that!) I hear you about how Instagram felt like too much pressure to document everything. It’s hard for me to fully enjoy and appreciate the moment when my phone is in front of my face. Thanks for your encouragement…all these supportive comments have been a relief to me. So glad everyone can relate to feeling the overwhelming grasp of social media and can understand why I need a break! Xo!

February 04, 2013

Wow, I love this. I haven’t had facebook for almost 2 years now because I just think it is so awful. Twitter, barely post anymore. Instagram, about once a week. Playing with vine is ok, I guess, but it all seems overwhelming to me! I love blogging, I love reading others blogs, I love pinterest, but other than that I like to keep it minimal. I feel like I get so distracted and wrapped up in what everyone else is doing and that is not good for any creative person. I think this is the next phase of slow blogging, and slow creating. Bravo for taking the first step. This also pushes me to comment more on the blogs I love, not just ‘like’ their posts. Thanks for a reality check today.

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replied on February 4th, 2013

Hey Patria!

Thank you so much for your kind words! It’s so true what you said about getting wrapped up in what other people are doing…it’s not healthy at all, and I think all the social media platforms lead us away from being productive…and can bring about a certain sense of negative self-worth from all the comparison and need to keep up. I really hope that we as bloggers can bring the focus back to the actual blogs, and move away from the constant social networking. I’m so happy you can relate and that this post hit home for you. It’s nice to know I’m in good company! :)

February 04, 2013

mmmm… I resonate with this. I think I posted one or two videos on Vine and in the end I just felt… overwhelmed. ANOTHER thing to update? It’s too much! So I stopped. Maybe I’ll go back to it one day, maybe not. I tend to be a pretty private person (a blogger who is private? oxymoron? ;)), I’ve always been really careful about what I share on social media and to not tweet/instagram/post on every little thing that occurs in my world. I try really hard to not get caught up in all the different apps/networks and I never, ever want social media to take over my life, you know? Or worse, I would never want to portray a life to the world that really isn’t mine. Or to try and make my life more exciting to people. I just want to be genuine. Me. Sometimes people can come across as insincere on the internet, and so much of what they portray is so overly glamorized and not real. It doesn’t have to be that way.

I think I’ve found that taking a lot of breaks from things (like currently – my blog) is key to not feeling completely overwhelmed. I think it’s so important to step away from our computers and our phones to really soak up the life that is in front of us, and I’m realizing that now more than ever. I feel like everyone around me is so excited and moving forward so quickly when it comes to social media, and I’m a little behind, not feeling totally on board with all of it. I DO love social media in moderation and the connections I’ve made have been life changing. I think it’s all about finding a balance, though. You’ve found what’s right for you and that is admirable. I think there are people who are almost – afraid? – of giving up social media and that’s what is so sad to me. It’s like they’re afraid of real life. It’s kind of scary, actually!

With that said, I’m really going to miss you on Twitter. :( You always had the kindest presence there. I will absolutely continue keeping up with your beautiful space here and I may just have to send you an email or two from time-to-time to chat :) You are a dear. xo.

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replied on February 5th, 2013

Kelly Ann, you are the sweetest. Thanks so much for this comment — I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. I’m just so glad that you can understand where I’m coming from…it’s kind of weird to be the oddball who doesn’t want to participate in social media anymore, but I honestly just got in too deep there for a while. And it started becoming unhealthy for me. That means so much that you think I had a kind presence on Twitter :) I always thought the same of you – and I’ve noticed that you seem you have a really good grasp on reality/a healthy balance between real life and internet land. Which is so important. I would love to keep in touch with you through blogging and emails – I DON’T want to lose out on these amazing connections I’ve made with people. That’s a testament to social media bringing people together! Much love to you! :) xo!

February 04, 2013

Amy, I felt the SAME WAY when I saw everyone talking about vine. Thank you for articulating what I felt so beautifully.

One tip, when I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’ll delete all of my social media apps from my phone and log out after visits on my computer – for me it’s about creating situations where I have to be deliberate about checking – and hopefully the deliberateness will lead to more control.

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replied on February 5th, 2013

Hey Tiff! Thank you so much – happy it hit home! That is exactly what I did actually — deleted all the apps from my phone and from my bookmarks bar on the computer, and logged out. I didn’t delete my actual Twitter account or Instagram account, cause it made me too sad to lose all my photos and the friends I’ve made. Who knows, I may want to come back one day…but for now, I need a solid break :)

February 04, 2013

Amy, this is brilliant! So, I’ve been thinking fairly similarly lately but didn’t know how to vocalise it. I have a saying that keeps going round in my head where I remind myself that ‘not everything I seen and do must be documented’. I am in complete agreement with you in that social media has become so ingrained in our lives that we feel lost without it. I have been thinking of doing a blog post recently about all these points you raise ans I just think you’ve articulated it so perfectly. The thing for me that I find difficult as a freelancer is that all (and I mean ALL) my work and therefore my livelihood comes to me via my blog, twitter and instagram. Possibly through pinterest too, but I don’t know for sure. I genuinely enjoy Instagram, twitter and pinterest and although I do definitely feel overwhelmed by it all sometimes I feel as thought I need to keep it going in order to keep my work up. It’s a difficult situation I find myself in. I want to do less of it, but I need to keep it up. A while back, though, I did get out of the habit of constantly checking numbers etc as I think that can be so destructive. If people like me or what I’m doing they’ll gravitate towards me and that’s great. If they don’t like me then that’s cool too, I don’t need numbers just for the sake of having ‘followers’ (a term which makes my skin crawl!).
Then last week or whenever it was, I saw Vine as this fun thing to be involved in…. I didn’t want to be left behind. So, I joined. And within a day or so I was done with it! You, along with a couple of other people reminded me that I don’t NEED to join. And that was the key for me – am I doing this out of need or want. So, since the day I joined, I haven’t actually been on it. But, I am keeping it for a bit of fun. I like that I can make little stupid videos on it, but, if I do so, then it’ll be because it makes me laugh or whatever and I couldn’t care less how many likes or followers (yuck!) I get…. I am keeping it purely for a but of fun for me – in fact with Vine you can make little vids and then save them to the camera roll on your phone without uploading – so I intend to use it as a sort of (very) mini piece of editing software rather than for any social media purpose. When I decided that, I suddenly liked it and although I haven’t used it since, the fact is, if I want to record something FOR ME then I can and no one need ever see it. That’s the way I’m using it to my advantage.
Also, I too have noticed blogs just going a bit off content recently. I lost the love of blogging at the end of last year but then last week (maybe after my Vine intervention – get it?!) I suddenly found the love again and wanted to get back to posting about things I love, without worrying about other forms of social media. As an aside, and I know this sounds like I’m going off on a tangent here but bear with me (!) I really do care about my blog and its content which is one of the reasons why I never do sponsored posts or giveaways. It’s my space and if people like it, then I’m thrilled, but if they don’t that’s totally cool. We are all different, but the last thing I want is to have an audience who DON’T READ THE WORDS! and who are just there to say ‘i love it’ or whatever because they want to win something… I don’t judge others AT ALL for doing giveaways, just to make that clear, it’s just for me, it’s too much pressure and I don’t like feeling obligated to post about something I don’t want to. Ok, totally longest comment on a blog post ever and probably really annoying for you – but I just wanted to say all that! If I had another form of revenue then I wouldn’t tweet or IG so much, but for now they work for me. And I’m glad I found my blog love again, which is why I’m excited to see what happens with yours… good on you and I know it’s going to be great! LOVE xx

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replied on February 6th, 2013

Thank you so much for this amazing comment, Jo! This is exactly what I’ve been hoping for as far as creating a good dialogue here goes! The more I hear about Vine, the more fun it sounds! I’m a sucker, so I’m glad I tamed the beast within and resisted downloading it. I’d have become a movie-posting machine…probably quit my job…started panhandling on the streets of Seattle to keep paying my phone bill…ahhh. Ha!

I totally hear you about being a freelancer and having to keep up with the social media to keep getting work. That’s why I started all of it up in the first place (cause I wanted to freelance). In the last year or so, I decided that I do enjoy being at a design firm and want to continue on that path for a while. So I have carte blanche will social media shunning, fortunately. ;)

So, so glad you have become such a good friend to me through social media – there really are benefits from networking, I’m not blind to that at all, and I’m glad that no one took this post that way! Much love to you, Jo! xoxo!

replied on February 7th, 2013

merp…carte blanche *WITH* (not will).

February 04, 2013

Oh, I meant *see*not *seen*. Yikes!

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February 04, 2013

Um, hello, sorry, it’s me again. You totally inspired me today to once and for all get that blog post I was talking about PUBLISHED. THANK YOU AMY!

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February 04, 2013

The feeling is mutual, my dear. SO grateful for our friendship!! xo

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February 04, 2013

I would love to pay less attention to social media, I find myself getting fidgety if I’m in a meeting at work and can’t check my Twitter account. Good luck in your journey!

Please change your font though, the colour and font make it really uncomfortable to read!

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replied on February 7th, 2013

Hey Emily,
Yep, that fidgety feeling is no good…I’ve definitely been there! Thanks for the well wishes and same to you. Sorry you had a hard time reading the font!

February 04, 2013

Hello,
It’s my first time here but I just thought I would leave a comment because I thought it was so ironic how I was just thinking this this morning. I want to really take stock of my schedule, handle my priorities and not be a slave to my phone, comments, likes, endless facebook scrolls. No matter how many one receives, it’s never enough and it doesn’t compare to the feeling of creating something! I enjoyed reading this because it helps me to see I am not the only one who feels this way.

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replied on February 7th, 2013

Hi Rayna!

Thanks so much for taking them time to comment — and I’m so glad you stumbled onto my blog. Welcome! I totally agree how at a certain point, we place too much value on numbers (how many likes, comments, our stats, etc.) and it’s never enough. Which is such a shame, because it takes away from the joy of posting/creating. The focus should be more on the reason we are posting (for fun, for creation, etc.), not the result. I hope you are able to find some peace from the constant beckon of social media too! :)

February 04, 2013

Your thoughts have put into words my very own notions lately – and I see, reading the other comments, that you are not alone, but have tapped into something which a lot of us feel. I stopped using FB and twitter over a year ago, feeling that it was more of “show off my life” mechanism than anything else. But I do love writing my blog, and reading other people’s blogs, because it is more about a 2 way conversation and the chance to explore some depth (compared with just a “isn’t this fabulous?” image on Instagram/FB/twitter pic/etc.). I often wonder if the blogging platform will become swamped by the other media, or if perhaps it will be the one platform that allows for actual effective communication.

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replied on February 7th, 2013

Couldn’t agree more about being able to create a deeper dialogue through blogging than is possible through the instant gratification of Twitter and IG. I feel like it’s up to us bloggers to shape the community as we would like. And hopefully that means not letting it get watered down by all the social networking platforms! Thanks so much for stopping by!

February 04, 2013

Oh goodness I’m so glad I stumbled on this post today. I completely feel everything you’ve said. The social networking has all just become too much and I’ve come to realize its all just a distraction keeping me from doing really productive creative work. I’ve already deleted my IG account and deactivated my personal FB account, and deleted the apps from my phone. And it feels so refreshing. Like you mine is just a personal blog that I’m not trying to make money off and in the end I love the blog more than all the other social sites so that where I want to spend my energy. My content is so much better and flows so much easier when I just worry about doing it for me. Well and for my loyal readers like mom…

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replied on February 7th, 2013

Hi Katherine!
So glad you stumbled onto my blog too! :) Sounds like a lot of us here are in the same boat – but it sure does feel like a weight lifted to be able to let go of the distractions — especially when it’s as simple as deleting a few apps. Crazy how technology can really start to rule your life. Like you, I have been enjoying blogging so much more without all of that excess!

February 04, 2013

This is exactly how I feel about social media and it can be tough as a creator/entrepreneur trying to market your work. I think it’s great that you’re doing this and I plan on doing the same thing! I find social media to be a burden more than anything and I do believe that businesses can be successful without being present one very single platform out there. Anyways, great post!

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replied on February 7th, 2013

Hi S! It is SO tough to market your work, and in the beginning, it felt uncomfortable and forced when I tried to promote myself (when I was freelancing before) and then I got desensitized to the networking, and I just felt like I was performing a monotonous routine. I love that you have the courage to take the road that feels most natural to you when it comes to your business. I’m a believer that success will come to you when you do things your way! Good luck to you! :)

February 04, 2013

so true! i’ve become increasingly irritated with the growth of Facebook, the obligatory adding & sharing with everyone, and the idea that if i don’t want to be bombarded by political & lifestyle posts / links i’m not into, it’s my responsibility to scroll or hide people instead of just disengaging or un”friending” [it's just a feed subscription after all, why all the faux-friendy language].

especially for those of us who grew out of a blogging community, there seems to be a desire for balance between a healthy amount of relevant information vs. the feeling of constantly cutting through clutter. media diets are a great idea. changing your name in some places is another way to gain some freedom. you can maintain your professional outlook under your real name, but if you want to read weird twitter or simply avoid everyone searching you out on Facebook, do what feels right for you.

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February 04, 2013

Your post could not have come at a better time. I have been increasingly feeling the same way. More and more often I have been moving from a state of FOMO (fear of missing out) to a state of JOMO (joy of moving on). I enjoy social media, but it can be distracting and a drain on the energy I could be using to create.
Thx again for your candor!

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February 04, 2013

I’m always late to the party – I joined FB only the year before last, when it was already losing momentum, and I started blogging only recently, no IG, no Twitter, no Pinterest – but already I feel spread too thin and wonder how others do it/did it.

It seems that a lot of people have been feeling the social media fatigue lately, so I hope something less taxing will emerge in the future.

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February 04, 2013

Hi Amy! I read this post when you first published it and have been meaning to come back and comment. I work in social media. I use it constantly and I hear what you’re saying. I’m trying to figure out how to set my own limits and how to be more present in my daily life. I try to avoid it more on weekends, but because I’m trying to build my own business IN that business, it’s not something I can totally let go of even then. I can imagine it would be really freeing. I have been more successful lately at closing down all of the windows of chatter to work on some creative projects, and that makes me happy. I’ve been thinking a lot about “manageable” social media – for myself and my clients – and building some guidelines around that.

Anyway, I just wanted to say, “Yay, you!” I hope we can meet up for coffee soon! Email me.

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